These may be inevitable comparisons, but the bottom line is this: All losses are not created equal, and that holds true for both divorce and widowhood.
Never Assume It would be easy to assume that all widows and widowers had happy marriages.
This certainly isn't the case with the death of a spouse.
Moreover, termination of a marriage by divorce is frequently accompanied by argument, acrimony, and alienation of friends or family. In addition, one or both spouses in divorcing couples may face dramatic financial losses.
It took a lot of talking and hashing out of past issues before I felt really comfortable with the “ghost” of my husband’s past.
But now, we’ve certainly moved on from that, and the majority of the time, I forget he was ever married before. Even though my husband had his share of baggage to get through, he was definitely ahead of the curve when it came to what it took to make a relationship work.
I didn’t have a lot of positive experience with it from my childhood years.As for me, I couldn’t have imagined it any other way.Depending on the person, divorced dudes can bring a lot to the table.Well the status of “widower” does not impart exemplary character or heroic qualities anymore than “divorced” automatically means selfish, unfaithful, or somehow unreliable.
My husband and I got married at 26, which is still fairly young by many people’s standards.
When I got married, I was really, really inexperienced in having an open, honest relationship.